Why Are You Not Living Your Dreams?

Why are you not living your dreams? Is it because you have negative feelings about your past? The past is like a river. Have you ever seen a river flowing backwards? The past is not coming back and chances are, if it did, you would make the same choices because you would still be in the same place as you were then. Do you have negative feelings about the present? You know my mantra “you can always choose again!”. If you don’t like where you find yourself standing, ask yourself “why am I still here?” Then, go stand some place else! Perhaps you blame your current situation on someone else. Okay, I will give you this one.

Someone else very well may have hurt you, disappointed or failed you. It could very well be someone else’s fault, but guess what? If someone else is in control of your life, it’s still your fault! For whatever reason, you allowed them to take control! Example: If your ex-husband was an idiot, he successfully managed to convince you to marry him. Now, who was the bigger idiot? Placing blame is not profitable and is counter-productive.

It is time to take responsibility for your life and your choices! It is not too late and you can do this! Again, I say, you can always choose again! You don’t sleep well, eat well or love well? Here’s a new word, balance! Not new you say? How many hours do you work on an average day eight, ten, twelve? How many hours do you sleep or rest five maybe six? Balance, it may not new, just lacking in your life! How many days do you work five, six or seven? How many days do you take off? one, maybe two? Where is the balance in that? Do you eat well? How about fruit? Have you had some today? Better yet, let’s try this one? Did you have any cookies, chips, pizza, or a personal favorite, Krispy Kreme doughnuts? If you are what you eat, that explains the big balloon around the mid-section of those that live in the vicinity of these God forsaken shops. We have literally turned into a nation of human Krispy Kreme doughnuts! How about loving well? Not just emotionally, but physically as well? Sex is important and not just to men! It is a great stress reliever! Not having great sex? No wonder you’re mad, frustrated and stressed! If you are between intimate relationships, find another outlet, like exercise and do it often! Maybe not the ideal substitute, but it too relieves stress!

Remember the commercials for the perfume, Enjolie? It went something like this a woman sings “I can bring home, the bacon, fry it up in the pan and never, never let him forget he’s a man… ” If he is allowing you to bring home the bacon and do the cooking as well, it’s too late! He’s already forgotten. Or this: I Am Woman, this tune became the battle cry of women around the world and made Helen Reddy a very rich women. Ms. Reddy did an interview in 2011. She was living alone in a tiny high-rise apartment, her tens of millions gone! Still think you need to be a super woman? Perhaps you should think again!

We no longer need the world’s definition of a super woman, The bible offers a better one. Proverbs chapter 31 ends like this: Verse 29 “Many daughters have done well, but thou excels above them all! Favor is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised! Give her of the fruit of her hands and let her own works praise her in the gates!” Ladies, our families, our businesses and our gifts are the fruit of our hands. When we nurture these, our true strength shines through and our dreams manifested! Your dreams are waiting to be realized. What are you waiting for?